Jenni, Dave, Ken and Doug on the waterfront in Charleston, SCJenni, Dave, Ken and Doug on the waterfront in Charleston, SC. Ken’s girlfriend snapped the photo. Jenni has carried it around for a long time so there are some scratches on it. We were walking around Charleston’s charming old downtown area enjoying being with each other. Ken was in the Navy and we only got to see each other for limited times between cruises. I wish I had taken as many pictures after Ken died as I did before. I feel like Doug’s teen years flashed by too quickly. A lesson is to be learned by other parents; I thought I learned it after Ken died, and now realize I didn’t.

 

 

 

This is an old photo taken at the preschool where Jenni worked and Doug attendedThis is an old photo taken at the preschool where Jenni worked and Doug attended. Maybe kindergarten? I’m not sure when, but it’s a great picture.

 

 

 

 

Just a few years ago Doug was holding his cousin Savannah, and this picture turned out great

Just a few years ago Doug was holding his cousin Savannah, and this picture turned out great. Later, Savannah called him Uncle Doug because she probably thought big guys were Uncles if they weren’t Grandparents. And she hadn’t yet understood cousins.

 

 

After a fun and educational visit to see wonderful art, the class returned to the bus and snapped this photo of Doug.On Oct. 26th, 2001, Doug’s art class went to the High Museum of Art, in Midtown Atlanta.    T.P. Man had things under control with the souvenir T.P. roll.   After a fun and educational visit to see wonderful art, the class returned to the bus and snapped this photo. He is wearing his leather jacket (of course) and his favorite shirt, from Ken’s collection. (There’s a backstory to the toilet paper joke, as once Doug returned to class from a bathroom break wrapped in t.p. as if he were a mummy.)

 

 

Doug's brother Ken at "the log house" Christmas morning in 1995Doug’s brother Ken at “the log house” Christmas morning in 1995. Ken was living with us then after being out of the Navy for a while.

 

 

This was taken at a restaurant in Charleston, SC where Ken was stationed in the NavyNot too good of Doug, but Ken and Dave look okay. This was taken at a restaurant in Charleston, SC where Ken was stationed in the Navy. This was probably taken in 1991, maybe 1992. Ken had a tattoo on his bicep of the pyramid logo from “Dark Side of the Moon”. (All three guys are Pink Floyd fans). The brothers’ love for each other can be seen here.

 

Doug had a great art class for two semesters, and these two pencil drawings illustrate (sorry) the concept of shading and perspectiveDoug’s family didn’t know he was an artist. Uncle Don sells his artwork in a neighborhood bar and calls himself a bartist. Doug had a great art class for two semesters, and these two pencil drawings illustrate (sorry) the concept of shading and perspective. While his training was very good, it wasn’t extensive since it was not quite two classes in length.

 

 

Retrozen candlestick drawing Doug LyleOne is a stainless steel teapot and the other is a silver candlestick. Doug considered himself to be a “Renaissance man” and he was indeed. He was talented as a poet, writer, musician, and artist.

 

 

Ken's first Christmas away from home because he was in Virginia Beach attending radar dude school for the NavyIt was Christmas 1990. Ken’s first Christmas away from home because he was in Virginia Beach attending radar dude school for the Navy. The family brought Christmas to Ken, tree and all, to a hotel near the base. One day we rode out to Williamsburg to see the sights. On the way back home (hotel) Ken and Doug fell asleep in the back seat of the car. Jenni turned around from the front seat and snapped this picture. Doug was nearly 7, Ken was 18.

 

 

In art class, Doug had a project to make a drawing from a photo, by drawing grid lines and copying the gridsIn art class, Doug had a project to make a drawing from a photo, by drawing grid lines and copying the grids. As you can see, Doug was excellent at shading (notice Ken’s nose). His teacher recognized his talent and allowed him to progress slowly. I think Doug was more interested in completing Ken’s face before his own. Doug entitled this drawing “The Ride Home”.

 

 

Doug's Uncle Don (a.k.a. Hank Floyd) sent us this card as a thank you for giving him our old computerDoug’s Uncle Don (a.k.a. Hank Floyd) sent us this card as a thank you for giving him our old computer. It was drawn using Windows 3.1 Paint program and a very old HP printer. Doug customized the old computer for Don, and we were both amazed at the quality of Don’s drawing.

 

 

Don Carter is a great friend, aka Hank Floyd, aka, Hollywood Don, aka, Moe Beers

Don Carter is a great friend, aka Hank Floyd, aka, Hollywood Don, aka, Moe Beers …etc. Don and I used to go rafting on the Chattahoochee years ago (late ’70’s), and this was taken then. Doug and I stopped by Don’s house Sept. ’01 to surprise him on his birthday. Don told Doug 4 things to live by….
1- Don’t drive drunk.
2- Don’t get anyone pregnant.
3- Don’t sign anything.
4- Don’t do what your parents tell you.

When Doug was an infant, we worked for a few months at a bed and breakfast.When Doug was an infant, we worked for a few months at a bed and breakfast. We often took the breakfast to people’s rooms wearing the Groucho glasses, and Doug liked to wear them too.

 

 

Doug had many friends at church; here they are coming out of Dave & Buster's.

Doug had many friends at church; here they are coming out of Dave & Buster’s.

 

 

Here's a picture of Doug playing my harmonica in "the log house"When Doug was a baby he liked playing the piano and one could tell his fingers were sensitive to the keys as he played. Here’s a picture of Doug playing my harmonica in “the log house”.

 

The senior picture shows how handsome Doug wasThe senior picture shows how handsome Doug was. We can hardly wait to see him in the next ___ (life?) (place?) (Heaven).

 

 

Memorial day, 2000 Jenni, Doug and I chartered a sailboat at the outer banks, NCMemorial day, 2000 Jenni, Doug and I chartered a sailboat at the outer banks, NC. Here Doug takes the helm. He was sailing a 27′ Compac sailboat with us and Peggy, a close friend/captain. The weather almost didn’t cooperate.

 

 

We spent two days at Universal studios and we had a lot of funIn 1997 I promised Doug we’d go to Orlando to do something fun. We spent two days at Universal studios and we had a lot of fun. I need to tell you about the Terminator show, and the little kid. I need to, but I won’t right now. After the Terminator show, Doug tried on a leather jacket at the gift shop. I have a picture of it somewhere.

 

 

In 1992 Doug and I got to sail with Ken on the USS Carr, a fast frigateIn 1992 Doug and I got to sail with Ken on the USS Carr, a fast frigate. Here’s a shot of Ken on the poop deck. The aft deck is where the helicopters land. Behind Ken you can just make out the control window where a sailor can help guide in the helicopter. The helicopter bays (two large garages) were used by the sailors during the cruise to work out with exercise gear. Isn’t Ken a hunk?! Both my sons are beautiful.

 

 

 

During the summer of 2001, Jenni drove Doug and Sarah to upstate NY to visit their good friend Rich LouiseDuring the summer of 2001, Jenni drove Doug and Sarah to upstate NY to visit their good friend Rich Louise. It was a great trip, and later Doug and Sarah went to Clayton, NY where Jenni grew up. They also had fun with Uncle Ronnie out on the St. Lawrence River. This photo was taken at some county or state fair up there. I’m glad Sarah is a friend.

 

Another friend (from art class) drew this watercolor just a couple of days after Doug diedAnother friend (from art class) drew this watercolor just a couple of days after Doug died. This friend told me that Doug had said if he had a choice what to do in eternity, he would choose two things … (1) To be a ghost or an angel and visit people and (2) to watch the moon and stars. I don’t think we can fully understand the spirit realm down here, but it’s okay to talk to our loved ones who have passed. And I think sometimes they can communicate with us.